The Contemporary Woman

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  • 5 Key Tips to Foster Self-Discipline for The Contemporary Woman—The Bonus Tip is the Secret  

    5 Key Tips to Foster Self-Discipline for The Contemporary Woman—The Bonus Tip is the Secret  

    The Contemporary woman oozes masculine energy—she is career oriented. She wants more than to be a mother or wife. Unfortunately, this only makes her life more complicated because it just adds more to her plate. This is where self-discipline comes in. As one of the said contemporary women—a mother—and a career woman, I find that managing time is what could make or break me. I know that if I perfectly harness the power of self-discipline, I can do it all.

    “The foundation of a strong self comes from small acts of daily discipline.”

    But self-discipline does not come easy, you have to sweat for it. You have to choose to do the small habits that will eventually build the character of the woman you want to be come. She is the one who will achieve your goals. It might be hard, but that will make the success that much sweeter. And while it might be hard, the key strategies below—when done correctly—are all you need.

    Set Clear Goals.

    Setting clear goals is the first step to realizing self-discipline. When you have clear goals, you know hat you are working for which comes with great determination and focus. It is also best to set realistic and achievable goals. As a contemporary woman juggling between the many nitty gritties of what it means to be a woman in the society today, breaking down your goals into short-term goals is deal. These goals are smaller, and seemingly doable—achievable. They make it easier to stay focused and motivated. The best part is that when you achieve these smaller goals, the thrill from achieving them becomes even more motivation that fuels you into completing the other set of smaller goals. And within no time, you have achieved those long-term big goals that seemed unachievable.  doable

    Create a Routine and Stick to it.

    Setting clear goals is easy, achieving them is not. After all, “success is 1% planning and 99% doing. So once you have the set goals, creating a daily routine is the holy grail that will help you achieve them. When you are juggling between being a traditional woman—mother, wife—and a modern career woman, chances are you always feel overwhelmed. You are almost always tired, stressed, and overstimulated because you have to block your feminine energy and tap into your masculine energy. This could result in procrastination because its never the ideal time to work on your goals. Creating a daily routine will clearly outline your daily tasks and help you work towards your set goals. Of course, the routine will only be effective once you stick to it.

    Prioritize Important Tasks

    Once again this comes down to the chaos that come with being a contemporary woman. You always have something or you to do, whether it’s for yourself or for others. To ensure you are focused on achieving your set goals, prioritize your tasks, because the idea that you can do it all only weighs you down when you find out you cannot.  Identify the most important tasks you need t complete each day and focus on accomplishing them first. Prioritize them on your daily routine. This way, your activities will ne more organized, fewer, and this will stop you from feeling overwhelmed.  

    Be heavy on Time Management.

    At this point I right sound like a broken record but being a woman is a lot! It comes with plenty of responsibilities especially when you are a mother and a career woman. Is a lot. This way, apart from creating a routine and prioritizing tasks, practicing time management is the only way to accomplish your set goals.  Time management helps you to do so much work, I seemingly very little time. It helps you to curb all the distractions that come in between tasks enabling you to be tie efficient. It relieves you off the mental load and the anxiety of always feeling you have so much to do, but not enough time.

    Consistency is Key

    When all is said and done, it all comes down to consistency. How consistent are you in creating a routine, prioritizing tasks, and managing time? How consistent are you in building self-discipline? To build self-discipline ad realize your goals, you must stick to your daily routine, even when you do not feel like it. You must stay consistent, do what it takes, because that’s what it takes.

    “True freedom is impossible without a mind made free by discipline.”

    Bonus Tip: Have an Accountability Partner

    I know we said staying consistent is the way to achieve self-discipline but when you are doing it alone, it might be hard to do it. When you are not accountable to anyone, it means no one will know whether you do it or not. So technically, you will not feel like you failed. This is why for a bonus tip, I decided to weigh in on the magic that is having an accountability partner. Share your goals with someone —preferable someone with as much drive as you, someone you hold in high regards. They will keep you committed and motivated to building discipline to achieve your set goals. Because apart from yourself you want to make them proud too.

  •  7 Major Signs of Blocked Feminine Energy in the Contemporary Woman

     7 Major Signs of Blocked Feminine Energy in the Contemporary Woman

    Most women of the 21st century were raised by women who were oppressed by the societal stereotypes of women. Women who felt it was their femininity which was holding them back. These women were very adamant on empowering girls. The cherry on top, of course, was the rise, and growth of feminism.

    This was great. It led to the rise of women in leadership, powerful women. Unfortunately, it also resulted in masculine women. These women raised us to believe we couldn’t make it while we still maintained our feminine energy. We had to lose it. So now we are dealing with an epidemic of women who have zero to very little femininity in them. Because femininity was associated with weakness.

    This resulted in the rise of a generation of women who are more masculine than feminine—women with blocked feminine energy. Sadly, these women are almost always stressed, overwhelmed and fatigued. Because masculine energy is not what comes naturally to women.

    Women just had to mimic masculine energy to survive. To get a seat at the table. Because the generation of women before us felt that is what was necessary for women to thrive in the patriarchal world of toxic masculinity that was very averse during their time.

    But women are meant to be “soft” “emotional” and empathetic. These are the traits that make for great women leaders. Because these are traits that do not come naturally to men. So, this is where women outdo men.

    So, what are the most rampant signs to look out for to identify whether your femininity is blocked?

    You have a  Do it All Attitude

    This is the biggest sign you are out of touch with your feminine energy. Feminine energy is more inclined towards sharing, collaboration and diplomacy. Masculine energy, on the other hand, is inclined towards the need to control, to take charge, to lead. Thus, as a woman, if you find yourself refusing help so you can do everything all by yourself, even when it’s hard because you feel you will be giving up control, that’s a HUGE RED FLAG! Get back in your femininity and let people assist you. It’s less work and you get time to relax and do your skincare for that undeniable feminine GLOW!

    You Don’t Take Care of yourself. 

    Nothing saying feminine energy more than a woman taking care of herself. Minding about your appearance, hair, scent, clothes etc. A woman deep in her feminine energy even takes longer showers.  So, when you find that you do not care about yourself, the scent you wear, you are not specific about the lotion you use, and have no single product meant to elevate how you feel or appear as a woman. When you realize there is no difference between your grooming routine and that of man, your feminine energy is definitely blocked.

    You Consider Femininity as Weakness.

    Most contemporary women, as stated before- were raised to believe that the more we tap into our masculine energy, the more powerful we become—Think like a man. The society also made it seem like we have to compete with men which meant being more like them, and not competing with them by being better women. This is misinformation but unfortunately, most of us were already brainwashed by it before we knew any better. This is why, most women who are more inclined to their masculine energy see femininity as weakness. The truth is, being soft, empathetic, compassionate does not make you weak as a women, instead it makes you a WOMAN. While it is not your fault if you deem femininity to be weakness—because that is what you were raised to believe—you do hold the power to change that.

    You do not Connect with your Intuition

    It is a fact that women have stronger intuition compared to men. In fact, feminine energy strongly relies on intuition to make decisions. Without connecting with your intuition, you do not trust your thoughts and feeling—your gut. This results in women making irrational or desperate decisions or simply use logic while blocking your feelings (intuition) resulting in unwise decisions and choices that would otherwise have been avoided.  

    You are Always competing with Men—Trying to Prove Yourself

    Masculinity is based on competition and thrives on acknowledgement from others. Men lobe to prove themselves to others, just to feed their ego. So, if you find yourself as a woman always trying to affirm your value through your accomplishments, your femininity might be blocked. It’s even worse if you find yourself constantly comparing your progress or achievements to men because it means you feel you will only be validated if you prove yourself to them.

    You Attract Weak Men

    Women with blocked feminine energy tend to always attract weak mean. When are woman is more inclined to her masculinity somehow attract men who are more inclined towards their feminine energy. So, if you people telling you that you ‘wear the pants” in the relationship—or learn this yourself because you are always the one initiating date and any other plans within the relation—this is your proof that your femininity is blocked.

    You Struggle with Romantic Relationships

    Women with blocked femininity have a very hard time staying in romantic relationships. If you are such a woman, you women are to focused on their careers that they do not have time for romantic relationships. As a masculine woman, you will also consider romantic relationships to be a waste of time—time that you would rather spend working. Another common dynamic is that as a masculine woman, you hate feeling controlled, inferior. Unfortunately, to sustain a relationship you must compromise, you are accountable to another person. A woman who is threatened by all these cannot sustain a relationship.

  • Are you a Single Mother or a Single Woman?

    Are you a Single Mother or a Single Woman?

    Yes, there is a difference

    Today, there are so many new words, terminologies and ways for people to define themselves especially in regards to their sexuality. It’s so hard to keep up and you can find yourself in trouble for using the wrong label on a person. Similarly, many relationships do not seem to last these days, divorce is at an all-time high. This means that the dynamics of relationships and homes have significantly changed. A perfect example is the rise of situationships even in marriages where many couples find themselves living as mere “roommates,” and even the “throuple” marriages. everything is confusing with so many burred lines.

    This raises the question to many women, are you a single mother or a single woman? Because with the vast change in dynamics, it is easy to confuse and mislabel the two.

    A single mother generally means a woman who raises her child(ren) alone. So yes, there are women who are married but are single mothers. It is worse for these mothers because they have an additional child in their husbands. The situation is even worse for married single mothers whose husbands are alcoholics and drug addicts who steal from them and even physically abuse them as it adds to their burden. Most of these women are mostly in rural areas where the idea of marriage is over-glorified. This means that even when a woman leaves an abusive marriage, they are considered a failure because “it is the woman who builds her home. “

    But there is good news, there are modern women who are single mothers by choice. The dynamics of the world today mean that women have more freedom, and more options. So, some women choose not to engage in relationships or marriage seeing that they are so fickle today—and instead, they choose to be mothers.

    So, who is a single woman?

    A single woman is a woman who is not married or not in a relationship. This means that even when a woman is single and is also a mother, but co-parents with their children’s father, they cannot consider themselves single mothers. The aspect of being a single mother only comes into play in the context of parenting alone. But when a father is actively present in the lives of his children, then a woman cannot consider herself a single mother because they do not go through the parent’s emotional and financial burden of doing everything alone.

    So, what is the take away?

    A single mother is not to be confused with a single woman or vice versa. And better yet, there are married single mothers and there are single women with children.